[Christian psychologists wrongly claimed] that a better treatment for codependency is to know .. that God loves you more than you think. God can fill you with love, so you don't have to be filled by other people.

... But ... even this answer is incomplete. The love of God can be a profound answer to just about any human struggle, but sometimes ... it becomes a watered down verstion of a profoundly rich truth. For example, ... this answer misses the call to "consider others better than yourselves," or it ignores personal repentance. Sometimes it still  allows us and our needs to be at the center of the world, and God becomes our psychic errand boy given the taks of inflating our self-esteem. ...

Instead of "How can feel better about myself and not be controlled by what people think?" a better question is "Why am I so concerned about self-esteem?" or "Why do I have to have someone--even Jesus--think that I am great?" ...

The most radical treatment for the fear of man is the fear of the Lord. God must be bigger to you than people are.

Edward T. Welch, When People Are Big and God Is Small